网上有一句很经典的话：会说话的人让人笑，不会说话的人让人恼。
There is a classic saying on the Internet: people who can talk make people laugh, and people who can't talk make people angry.
说话是一种本能，会说话则是一种修养。
Speaking is a kind of instinct, and speaking is a kind of cultivation.
“好听”的话会悦人悦己，“难听”的话则伤人伤己，把话说得美丽是一个人最大的体面，也是最高的智慧。
"Good" words will please others and others, while "bad" words will hurt others and hurt others. It is a person's greatest honor and wisdom to speak beautifully.
言多必失，智慧的人从不说这三句话。
A wise man never says these three words.
有一句很扎心的话：“你不懂我的苦，就别劝我美丽。”
There is a very penetrating saying: "If you don't understand my pain, don't persuade me to be generous."
可现实中，总有太多人一边不去明白别人的苦，一边又急于劝慰他人原谅。
But in reality, there are always too many people who are eager to persuade others to forgive while not understanding others' sufferings.
走过的路越多，履历的事变越多，路过的故事越多，便越开始明白，并不是每一个人都可以在布满爱的环境里成长，也不是每个人都可以顺遂无忧，许多人都有无人可说的委屈以及言不由衷的话语……
The more we have traveled, the more we have experienced, and the more stories we have passed, the more we begin to understand that not everyone can grow up in a loving environment, nor everyone can be happy, and many people have unspeakable grievances and insincere words
我们每一个人的心结差别，大概有些自己可以熬过的苦，却是有些人一生过不去的坎。
Each of us has a different heart knot. Maybe some of us can get through the hardships, but some people can't get through the difficulties in their life.
很认可一个观点：“在这个天下上，没有人真正可以对另一个人的伤痛感同身受。”
I agree with a view: "In this world, no one can really feel the pain of another person."
有一种修养叫不说，有一种善良叫不懂别人的苦就别劝人美丽。
There is a kind of cultivation called don't speak, and there is a kind of kindness called don't persuade others to be generous if you don't understand others' sufferings.
假如不能陪对方走过谁人坎，至少不要自以为是地在他伤口撒盐；假如不能感同身受地去明白别人的苦，就别把自己的美丽强加给别人。
If you can't accompany the other party through that ridge, at least don't sprinkle salt on his wound with self-righteous; If you can't understand others' sufferings with empathy, don't impose your generosity on others.
愿我们都被光阴温柔以待，也愿我们温柔待人。
May we all be treated gently by the years, and may we treat others gently.
你有没有如许的履历：
Do you have such experience:
买了一件悦目的衣服，效果被人说丢脸，顿时陷入尴尬；
I bought a nice dress, but it was said to be ugly, and I was immediately embarrassed;
做了一个勇敢的选择，效果被人说鲁莽，立即心情变得低沉；
He made a brave choice, but was said to be reckless, and immediately became depressed;
有一个很棒的方案，效果被人说不可行，于是内心五味杂陈。
There was a great plan, but it was said that it was not feasible, so I had mixed feelings.
泼冷水只必要一句话、一分钟，可是被人泼冷水后的伤害却是不可估量的。
It only takes one sentence and one minute to pour cold water, but the damage caused by being poured cold water is immeasurable.
《论语》中的一句话：“君子和而差别，小人同而不和。”
There is a sentence in the Analects of Confucius: "Gentlemen are harmonious but different, while villains are not."
这天下上没有两片完全雷同的叶子，也没有两个想法完全雷同的人。
There are no two identical leaves in the world, nor two people with identical ideas.
观点、判断、选择差别是一件再正常不外的事变了，否定他人很轻易，但真正有格局的人懂得“和而差别”：即使不赞成他人的观点，也不会急于否定；即使不认可对方的差别，也不会强迫他人改变。
It is normal to have different opinions, judgments and choices. It is easy to deny others, but people with real patterns understand "harmony but difference": even if they disagree with others' opinions, they will not be in a hurry to deny; Even if you don't recognize the difference of the other party, you won't force others to change.
朋友笑笑和我说，她把一个同事拉黑了。
My friend smiled and told me that she had blackmailed a colleague.
我问她为什么，她很无奈地回答：“实在同事还不错，就是太消极，遇到一点小事就吐槽个不绝，还每天放工私聊我跟我诉苦。总之和她在一起，每天工作都感觉挺压抑也挺焦虑的。”
When I asked her why, she reluctantly replied, "Actually, my colleague is pretty good, but he is too negative. He keeps roast about trifles. He also talks privately with me every day after work. In short, I feel depressed and anxious every day when I work with her."
听了笑笑的形貌，突然想到一句话：不要把自己活得像流浪者，急着告诉所有人你的不幸。
After listening to Xiaoxiao's description, it suddenly occurred to me: Don't live like a loser, and hurry to tell everyone about your misfortune.
负能量的人，就像流浪者一样平常总是传递负能量，殊不知说出去的每一句负能量的话换来的不是同情与资助，而是他人的扫兴与烦躁。
People with negative energy, like people in distress, always transmit negative energy. However, every negative energy word they say is not for sympathy and help, but for the disappointment and annoyance of others.
成年人的生活没有毫不费力，每个人都在自己的天下里疲惫地应付生活的刁难。
The life of adults is not effortless. Everyone is tired of dealing with the difficulties of life in their own world.
成长就像赶夜路，既没有豁亮的夜灯，也没有往来不绝的行人。我们只能自己发光发亮，以此照亮前行的路。
Growth is like chasing the night road. There are neither bright night lights nor endless pedestrians. We can only shine by ourselves to illuminate the way forward.
阔别身边斲丧自己的人，别让自己陷入负面感情之中，和正能量的人在一起才能步步生花。
Stay away from the people around you who consume yourself, and don't let yourself fall into negative emotions. Only when you are with people with positive energy can you grow flowers step by step.
做一个像向日葵那样的人，把脸一直朝着阳光，就不会看到阴影。
Be a person like sunflower, keep your face towards the sun, and you won't see the shadow.
人生的困扰，说到底十之八九的题目都出在人际关系上。而人际关系的困扰，说到底十之八九都是因为沟通出了题目。
In the final analysis, nine out of ten problems in life arise from interpersonal relationships. In the final analysis, nine out of ten problems in interpersonal relationships are caused by communication problems.
说话是性价比最高的投资，也是一个人自我提升最好的方式。
Speech is the most cost-effective investment and the best way for a person to improve himself.
说话袒露着一个人的修养，好好说话，就是最好的修行；说话也袒露了一个人的操行，专心说话，才能以心换心、求仁得仁。
Speaking exposes a person's cultivation. Speaking well is the best practice; Speaking also exposes a person's character. Only when you speak with your heart can you exchange heart for heart and seek benevolence.
人最大的敌人是自己，最大的贵人也是自己。
Man's greatest enemy is himself, and his greatest nobleman is himself.
好好说话的你，就是自己最大的贵人。
Speak well, and you will be your greatest noble. |
